Stop Blaming Other People

I'm sorryWhen you blame someone else for something, no matter what it is, you’re protecting yourself from being wrong or at fault.

When you say you’re sorry and take ownership of the situation, the common misconception is that it makes you look weak or powerless. When actually, saying you’re sorry humanizes you and makes you more likeable.

It’s easy to blame others, it’s hard to blame ourselves.

Understanding this is imperative to you making it in this world. It’s a scary place out there and you need to have thick skin if you want to make it. You have to own up to your mistakes. Take responsibility for when things go wrong, don’t point out where others messed up, shut up and fix it yourself. If you get the reputation as the person who takes responsibility, who gets things done, and isn’t afraid of being wrong, you’re grooming yourself to be a leader.

When you blame others for something, it gives you nothing to do about it. Once you blame yourself, you now have something to work on. In the book Bounce it talks about how world class athletes sometimes feel lost when they win, because they have nothing they need to work on. The most successful athletes in the world are the ones constantly working to make something better.

Get in the habit of taking the blame, point the finger at yourself and don’t being afraid to fix a situation. People look up to others who get shit done. Especially in the world we live in, we all need to strive to take the blame more often.

It starts by not blaming others.

1 reply
  1. Jeremy Leith Horbach
    Jeremy Leith Horbach says:

    I always appreciate the relevance of your posts, Jeph. You take issues that every person embraces, at one time or another, and put them into perspective.

    The biggest tragedy of the new corporate world and interconnectivety of global community is it offers a chance to embrace new humanitarian issues, but also gives us the opportunity to shrug those issues away. There is always a study, or research, or an opinion, of someone, somewhere, that can explain away the choices we make.

    I try to take a step back everyday and address where my mistakes were made. I pull a page from my younger brother’s play book and talk to the people who may have been affected by my foibles. They may or may not appreciate my honesty, apology, or the fact I didn’t let the matter lay dormant, however, we, as a species, need to start taking responsibility for our actions. Big or small, they add up on a grand scale.

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